About Us

Hi, it’s Dianne Simboro here. After 20 years of a very challenging marriage, I found myself almost by accident sitting in front of my very first Counsellor, who gave me a long list and asked me to put a tick next to each point that was relevant to me. I ticked so many things on that list – it was like someone had read my mind and knew what was going on behind closed doors. I was shocked when the Counsellor told me that all of those ticks on the page represented strategies of abuse commonly used by perpetrators of violence. Apparently the absence of black eyes and broken limbs didn’t mean the absence of abuse, it just took a different form for me.

Even though I was still nursing the effects of a serious back injury which limited the hours I could work and the types of jobs I could do, I took my two girls and left, not knowing how I would manage but still confident I was doing the right thing. It wasn’t easy at first. As impossible as it seemed, I was better off financially than I had been in my marriage with two wages and I was much happier, because I had regained control over my life and my choices, while my children were doing better academically and emotionally.

I invested in my education and personal development – everything I did was aimed at understanding why people do what they do, so I could understand what happened to me and why, and to make sure it never happened again. 

I started supporting other survivors of family violence and discovered that the strategies I had used in my recovery process, seemed to work equally well for other women when they implemented them. 

These days my time is spent helping survivors of family violence to move from just surviving, to really thriving. 

A thriver’s greatest power is to recognise the strategies of abusers as what they are – strategies, and to finally become a person who has eliminated all of the hooks that were once used as a means of control. Once that’s done, the result is new and unhindered freedom and a wonderful example for children to follow.

So if you want more, here’s what I will teach you:

• All the strategies used by abusers, as well as exposing the intent behind their actions – finally providing you with the answer of why he is doing what he is doing.
• Detailed information on navigating the legal system – demystifying legal jargon by translating it into easy to understand English, providing you with a list of things to do and things to avoid when applying for a protective order, a three phase approach of “before, during and after your day in Court”.
• I provide you with email contact so you can ask me your own questions directly and actually get a response from a real person.
• And, most importantly, I provide you with a step by step recovery plan – recovery from the resultant trauma of the abuse – to take you from just surviving to thriving.